I like friends.
Not the show – I’ve never seen it – I mean two people loving each other platonically and being supportive. It’s one of my essentials to a perfect story!
I was thinking about this the other day and I realized I don’t have any YA friendships to gush about. The only thing close is the Argo II crew from Heroes of Olympus (which is an excellent series but technically middle-grade).
And what irritates me the most is the fact that I haven’t come across any friendships in YA fantasy books! A lot of fantasy – and even contemporary – books have “friendships” and not friendships. What’s the difference? You ask.
Well, allow me to tell you my basic rules for fictional friendships:
YA Friendship Essentials
1) Inside jokes that no one else understands
All friends have inside jokes. I mean, all close people have inside jokes. This isn’t necessary (I suppose…) but it always makes me smile.
It’s also an excellent way to show the reader that two people are close instead of just telling them.
2) Support (from both sides!)
Obviously, good friends are supportive. Do I even need to go over this?
Good friends are there for each other – on both sides.
For example, Friend A is having trouble. Friend B should be 100% willing to drop everything and come help.
BUT Friend A should know to not ask Friend B to drop everything important and come help unless this is a genuine EMERGENCY.
See what I mean? Support comes from both sides. No selfishness here!
This one is more specific to long friendships. My closest friends and I have been together for almost eight years now, and there is no way in HELL I would EVER let anything come between us, and I know the feeling is mutual.
Which is why I always hate when I read about “friends” who have been together forever…but will toss each other aside when someone cute walks by.
Beyond the fact that they’re a bad friend, I just don’t understand it. There are no friends in my life who would do that and so when I read about “friends” like that it makes me roll my eyes SO HARD.
FRIENDS PRIORITIZE FRIENDS.
4) Friends Don’t Lie
What is the point of friends…close friends to confide in…if…you lie to them??
Babe, if you don’t feel comfortable telling your friends about what you’re doing it means YOU SHOULD NOT BE DOING IT.
This goes back to the prioritizing thing. Sometimes you don’t tell your family everything you’re doing, which is fine, but in my experience friends know close to everything, if not everything, about you.
FRIENDS DON’T LIE (Stranger Things references…)
What do you like to see in friendships? Do you have any favorite bookish friendships? Who’s your closest online friend?
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